Comments on: Adult children http://www.affie.com.au/adult-children/ specialising in dependencies: compulsions and recovery Thu, 18 Mar 2010 09:16:50 +0000 hourly 1 By: Affie Adagio http://www.affie.com.au/adult-children/comment-page-1/#comment-98509 Affie Adagio Mon, 10 Mar 2008 11:05:51 +0000 http://www.affie.com.au/adult-children/#comment-98509 @Robin: you are overlooking the vital point that no matter what she does, he in fact is allowing her to ruin her life and his. If he were smart about the situation, and valued his life and yours, and wanted to be truly helpful to her he would get professional help to guide him. @Robin: you are overlooking the vital point that no matter what she does, he in fact is allowing her to ruin her life and his. If he were smart about the situation, and valued his life and yours, and wanted to be truly helpful to her he would get professional help to guide him.

]]> By: Robin http://www.affie.com.au/adult-children/comment-page-1/#comment-97025 Robin Tue, 04 Mar 2008 09:20:39 +0000 http://www.affie.com.au/adult-children/#comment-97025 A man I care very much for is upset over the fact that his 20 yr old daughter is making bad choices, starting with her older boyfriend who does nothing to support her and the baby. She has made choices to do illegal, things that her boyfriend knew and let her do because he didn't want to get caught doing them. He feels that if him and the ex try to show that they can get along and work together that they can get her to realize she needs to not be with this man. So even though he and his ex fight like cats and dogs,she comes and goes without notice our relationship is on hold. He feels and was the problem when they divorced and so now that she is totally irresponsible and going down hill he should be be there for her. He pays bills for her and holds back from developing our relationship because of guilt. they were married 7yrs. and have been divorced for 10. yrs. She was in a relationship for the last 10 years but continued to call on him when in trouble. I feel she keeps him emotionally held hostage with guilt and hopes of reuniting even after 10 yrs. There may be no hope for us,but it kills me to see him put his life on hold. how do I help him see the craziness in this? He is49 and missing out on life. RY A man I care very much for is upset over the fact that his 20 yr old daughter is making bad choices, starting with her older boyfriend who does nothing to support her and the baby. She has made choices to do illegal, things that her boyfriend knew and let her do because he didn’t want to get caught doing them.

He feels that if him and the ex try to show that they can get along and work together that they can get her to realize she needs to not be with this man.

So even though he and his ex fight like cats and dogs,she comes and goes without notice our relationship is on hold. He feels and was the problem when they divorced and so now that she is totally irresponsible and going down hill he should be be there for her. He pays bills for her and holds back from developing our relationship because of guilt.
they were married 7yrs. and have been divorced for 10.
yrs. She was in a relationship for the last 10 years but continued to call on him when in trouble. I feel she keeps him emotionally held hostage with guilt and hopes of reuniting even after 10 yrs. There may be no hope for us,but it kills me to see him put his life on hold. how do I help him see the craziness in this? He is49 and missing out on life.
RY

]]> By: Cyprus Property http://www.affie.com.au/adult-children/comment-page-1/#comment-76160 Cyprus Property Sun, 02 Dec 2007 01:48:59 +0000 http://www.affie.com.au/adult-children/#comment-76160 Correct. Everything we do, whether bad or not, right or wrong, became right in the eyes of our kids. Correct. Everything we do, whether bad or not, right or wrong, became right in the eyes of our kids.

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