http://www.affie.com.au specialising in dependencies: compulsions and recovery Sun, 24 Aug 2008 11:50:15 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en [caption id="attachment_642" align="alignleft" width="150" caption="setting foot on the ceiling 3, photo by Thiago Tavares, Maringa, Brazil, semcriatividade.com/tchago, sex addiction"][/caption] A discussion has evolved from my post on the practice of 13th Stepping - having sex with a person who is more vulnerable than yourself. There have been comments denigrating the 12 ... http://www.affie.com.au/13th-stepping-protection/ Energy can seem to disappear when motivation becomes low. It is important not to hand over our power to the negative feelings which are also affected by negative associations. Notice how invincible we feel when motivation is high and we then have the energy to reach great achievements. So when ... http://www.affie.com.au/when-motivation-waxes-and-wanes/ No matter how happy we are living alone we need love and music to keep us alive and happy. Notice how feelings change when we put music on. When the music is adagio, the heart warms and the serotonin is released making us relax. The same applies to other music ... http://www.affie.com.au/love-and-music-keeps-us-alive/ I had a comment from Renee about a problem they were experiencing, which is worth writing a post on here. Many families are faced with the discomfort that a member's compulsion can cause. There is a concern for what is obvious and then struggling with a need to not cause ... http://www.affie.com.au/obesity-in-young-girls/ I promised to let you know why some visitors to Australia come here to get married because it is not possible to marry in their own country. I also wrote that as I was not exactly sure why this was the case I would wait for the ... http://www.affie.com.au/visitor-weddings/ People who are torn apart by their addiction can lose years struggling to find happiness. Having unhealthy behaviour, whether it is substance or process excesses, keeps us from finding fulfilment and serenity. Nevertheless, only when we become willing to go to any lengths to gain recovery are we able ... http://www.affie.com.au/willingness-to-be-abstinent/ I cannot stress enough that people who are not experienced or qualified need to know their limitations when it comes to providing guidance or therapy to those who are afflicted with dysfunctional or addictive behaviours. I am being approached by so many visitors to this website who think that ... http://www.affie.com.au/know-your-limitations/ I wish you all a Happy New Year with happiness and love in your lives.  The festivities found me recuperating from a shoulder injury, as you know,  but now I am feeling more agile. My mind has turned to new year resolutions that we often make, some do-able and some ... http://www.affie.com.au/happy-new-year/ When we are injured physically or emotionally (burnout) the recovery process takes some time and we need to give ourselves permission to veg out and rest in order to heal. Sitting around doing nothing can cause us guilt but the recovery from injury takes time. We need to follow doctor's ... http://www.affie.com.au/recovery-from-injury/ When two people enter into a relationship it quite often happens that they slip into roles as though they are on opposite ends of a 'see saw' and this causes a perceived power imbalance where one feels overpowered by the other. The dominant partner increases their ability to be outspoken ... http://www.affie.com.au/power-imbalance/