Comments on: Willingness to be abstinent

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 23:25:24 +0000

I have lived with depression for many years. I had someone say to me recently that I need to stop focusing on the outcome and concentrate on the process itself, the outcome is secondary. Just living day to day, not concerning myself with all the tomorrows or yesterdays. I have these ‘trauma relapses’ but I get up after that and keep going almost inexplicably. I am addicted to love and struggling to come to terms with the end of my marriage. Remembering it is about getting the process right is the thing that keeps me moving in the right direction.

By: Affie Adagio

Affie Adagio — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 04:10:11 +0000

@ Daisy: When you keep doing what works then you have a healthy outcome. Remember that if you have become vulnerable with depression then you could be managing well but when something traumatic comes along in your life then later you pay the price. It is like an anniversary of the trauma kicks in your depression even if you have been doing everything else to maintain a healthy life. Then if you explore what you did the same time a year ago or a few months ago that you experienced the trauma, just becoming conscious of that will help your recovery.

By: daisy

daisy — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 03:02:16 +0000

I struggle with depression and lots of things help me shift to a better space. Movement, acuppuncture, counselling, support, good choices etc, but a few poor choices and I’m spirallng down again. My heart is tight and there is little space in me at the moment and I’m frustrated looking for work, but all I can do is to take the next step I can see towards healing and then the next one. endlessly forever, I’m so tired but there is nothing else to do.

By: Soa

Soa — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 19:43:02 +0000

Great Post! And Jane just keep supporting him that what he needs right now!

By: Jane

Jane — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 09:56:59 +0000

So true! I have a relative that’s fighting drug addiction, and sometimes I’m not convinced he is ready to give it up. He has tried a few times to give up but only half-heartedly.