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Tools of Serenity

Filed under: Compulsion & Recovery, Life Strategies — Affie Adagio at 7:58 pm on Monday, February 20, 2006

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We underestimate the benefit of the tools of serenity. That is, reading literature that promotes self awareness; writing about our feelings and innermost thoughts; meeting with like-minded people who are determined to live healthy; eating and drinking healthy; gentle exercise; and regular affirmations.

My six year old granddaughter
asked me for paper and pen to
pass the time away while her sister
was training for basketball
so I stopped my writing after a while
and handed her some paper and the pen
she wrote and wrote mesmerised
and I asked her what she was saying
she replied that she was writing about what had
happened at school and at home that made her unhappy
after a while she said there was nothing more to write
so I mentioned that perhaps she could write about how
she feels now that she has written all this
so she wrote that she felt happy
four small pages - one example of the tools of serenity

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Comment by Robert Shields

September 18, 2006 @ 10:15 am

I use a similar technique with children in my hypnotherapy practice.

I ask the child to write down what his or her problem is, but to smile when doing so.

The smile often fades into a look of concentration and I ask him or her to keep smiling.

Often the last comment is one of not being worried by the problem any more.

Children are wonderful to work with.

Comment by Affie

September 20, 2006 @ 10:43 pm

Hi Robert,

Thanks for your comment.

It is true that children are wonderful to work with. Their innocence is inspiring.

We often try to protect children from expressing themselves, whereas if we encourage them to say what is in their hearts not only is it good for them but we learn from them too.

See my post (20/09/06)in response to your comment.

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September 21, 2006 @ 9:40 am

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Comment by Robert Shields

September 30, 2006 @ 8:29 pm

You are so right Affie.

The guy who introduced the saying “Children should be seen and not heard” obviously missed the importance of what he said as so many people believe that nonsense.

One thing we all miss, and you must believe in reincarnation to believe this, is that children have the wisdom of their past lives lying within their Unconscious Minds and every now and then that wisdom surfaces.

Sincerely,

Robert Shields
Accredited Hypnotherapy Trainer
Amercian Board of Hypnotherapy
http://www.dreams2reality.co.uk

Comment by Affie

October 15, 2006 @ 11:13 pm

Hi Robert,
Your comment again inspired one of my posts called Reincarnation showing different ways of thinking about
this topic.

Regards
Affie

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